I am leaving for Morocco in 40 days to meet the man I met on myspace

Submitted by Danesnpits (Canada), Jan 23, 2008 at 21:47

I had posted about a guy I had met on myspace in November. I have been reading the column very closely. I have also done the research also. I am confident in my decision to go meet my guy in Morocco. He is amazing.

It was a bit rocky at first, but i realized it was from the internet, communication. It was hard sometimes to understand each other. But we have formed a huge bond. He is truly amazing. Honestly being 34 years old, from Canada and several failed attempts at a relationship, I have not yet found a guy remotely close to who I would marry. This guy is it! I have never felt so sure in my life.

I know for a fact he is not out to use me for a visa. Despite what everyone thinks, I have seen several photos of western women with their gorgeous moroccan men. I can see the unhappiness in the photos. I am a beautiful, successful, blonde, loving, passionate, loyal canadian girl. I have also been studying animal behavior and realized, I know how to pick a good person from a bad one. I know what to watch out for in mannerisms, facial mannerisms, the way they talk to you, the tone in their voice, i know the red flags to look out for in a guy.

I am satisfied that my moroccan man has passed with flying colors. I am not blind, and this isn't about being desperate. I am just fine on my own to settle here in Canada if I so choose. And now I see why my relationships fail here in my own country. The way we are brought up, the men especially,,,the gambling, the sex, cheating, lieing, hitting, no sense of family..it is becoming more rampid than ever..there is no respect here. The fact that I met a moroccan has nothing to do with how I feel. It is the experiences throughout my life and seeing my mother in her failed marriage, my friends..my co workers..omg I can't get over the troubles in love in my own country.

My moroccan man is a person. Just like me. The similarities are uncanny between us. We have the same whapred sense of humour even. We both feel pain, hurt, and love. I think alot of the women on here that have had bad experiences do so because they were scammed or abused and went through with one eye shut rather than both eyes open. I believe some women are blinded by the words I love you. I love you is an easy phrase for alot of people to use. But it is built, not just said.

The way to love someone is the same no matter where you come from. I believe in my heart, from what I see and what I hear that I have found that. I also think that your heart is to be trusted 100 percent. I trust mine. I dont' have any doubts, but I have seen alot of women on here, have doubted but still went for it, and then got burnt. I have had a nice talk with my guy about the scams going on. It makes him sick, to be in the cyber cafe and watching these guys bet on western women like we are a game of poker. It is a game.

For me, I have been involved with gamblers before..its an addiction..The men in the cyber cafe's bet on each other to see who can swindle the most cash out of a westerner and then they win money on top of that. The visa thing is true..alot marry to get out of the country..but I don't blame them for wanting out. No one would give them a chance to get out if they told the truth. So these men marry the first person that bites, in hopes for a better life. I would do the same if I was stuck somewhere that was hurting me. I believe that if a person wants to marry a moroccan man, do it with everything you got. Learn about him, his family, and show the real love. Without real love you got nothing. I say take a chance. I am..and it is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

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