Re Web cam "problem" - another one of those "odd things"

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jan 27, 2008 at 14:15

You wanted some advice on the recent web cam problem. The same thing happened to me during the time when my husband was cheating online ( he had many dating profiles from this time period ) and also the second marriage was being arranged. There had never been a problem before with using the web cam and every computer at the cafe had one. Suddenly he was telling me that the pc he was using didn't have a cam and all the other pc's were busy.

Also there was a time gap between something i typed and his reply - have you noticed this ? And he always seemed to make excuses for not coming to the cafe - headache, mother sick, you name it. And he got angry if i questioned him about any of this - it is the method of making you back away from your attack and it works because we are afraid of losing the man we care for.

My suspicion is that your guy is now cheating - they have short attention spans and the word "love" is meaningless for them. Also you're long distance so the temptation is too great. So sorry. My advice is to walk away and don't turn to look back. And check the dating websites and myspace, etc. to see if he has profiles - use his favorite user names etc if you know them. Or type his user names into google search -it's how i found my husband's icq profile.

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