Update

Submitted by Shannon (United States), Jan 27, 2008 at 18:03

After reading the stories here, particularly about following one's "gut" I've decided to end my relationship with the Pakistani man I was seeing. Of course, this is not the entire reason but it did play a part. I realize that I know little to nothing about him, but I do know he's realitively devout (follows halal, doesn't drink or smoke), and that he's here in the US only on a work visa.

I guess I feel like he's looking for a way to stay in the US and possibly using me as a means to an end - I drink AND smoke. Why would someone who appears somewhat religious - and who's religion forbids certain things - want to be with someone who is not religious and who engages in activities that are clearly against his own? I'm glad I found this site as it opened my eyes a bit rather then let myself be blinded by the infatuation.

Thanks to all. And to those of you who are in a wonderful relationship, congratulations. It is nice to know that it does and can work out sometimes.

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