about returning to him

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jan 27, 2008 at 18:21

My husband did the same thing. I was in Canada doing his immigration ( which thankfully he didn't get ) and he was putting profiles on many websites looking for a woman. Before discovering these, i asked him if he was looking for women as his behavior had changed a lot. He swore he wasn't and said he can't lie being a muslim. A short while after i found the first of many websites. He was single he said on the profile. It tore me in pieces to see this. His family was nice to you because a guest is treated with great hospitality - that might be all it was.

You may have been a temporary marriage for them - read about misyar marriages. He might be asking you to return because he needs you to receive the court divorce papers otherwise he can't get the divorce. Mine begged me to return and when i got there, the papers arrived at my door. If you are wealthy then you're in danger perhaps.

Did you go back to him ? what happened ? If he's looking for women in your area, maybe he's setting up his harem and plans to come there. Mine was looking at women in the Canadian city he wanted to live in. P.S. how did you learn about the internet thing he was doing ?

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