to Shannon, my experience w/Pakistani

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Jan 27, 2008 at 21:19

Shannon, the last man I deeply fell in love w/was Pakistani. He came here when Mushareff overthrew Bhutto in the 90's. Anyway, He was Shi'a and in his country a famous entertainer...but here he worked in restaurant . In Pakistan your "image" is EVERYTHING. So since I am minority person, no $$ I was nothing to this person. I loved him soooo much!! He was much older than me but our relation could never be out in the open amongst his peers.

It is hard for me to believe that your man would marry a lady that smoked or drank though the men OFTEN do.They will marry American lady but she must be caucasion...as fair skin is the prize to them. Pakistan men do not allow their women out . Only to work . You will never go out on "dates" etc. And when other men are around you must leave the room. You will only mingle in the Pakistani community which is not bad at all. It seems they have this sexual idea of American women {meaning lots of lovemaking}.

You would definitely have to dress conservatively.No arms, legs showing but you do not have to wear a scarf though it is preferred.The Pakistan man if he wants you for green card will leave you w/o a second thought lest he is "elder" over 50. Past the point of getting new Muslim wife.What was the age difference?? His marital situation?? I don't think you should have ended the relation if he made you happy.

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