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Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 27, 2008 at 21:25

You've known this person for three weeks through the phone and internet. You'll have to excuse my bluntness once again, but how can you possibly LOVE someone you never met or know for such a short period of time?

Are you sure what you are feeling is actual LOVE? Or, are you just soooo attracted to a guy from a different culture and exotic place who is giving you attention in your "boring life" in Ireland?

Remember, relationships always start nice and fuzzy, but it's the long haul that counts.

And look, you're already talking about marriage, and that's a life-long committment, and I'm sorry, but being bored in your homeland is a bad excuse for running off with someone you don't know all that well to add excitement to your life makes absolutely no sense to me.

This guy seems kind of insecure if he is worried about where you are if you don't get back to him right away. And you don't have anything to apologize for there. EVERY woman I know would not respect a guy who did that. And he says you've PROVED yourself to be a good Christian? How? In a period of three weeks he says this, but then again, if you don't reply right away, you may be with another man? Would that be a Christian thing to do? I don't think you are a whore by any means, but it's clear to me you haven't proven anything to him and that he doesn't trust you 100%, which is common in a distance relationship.

I'm sure by now, you hate me, but you also bring up the idea that he knows you have no money. How does he know? Has he asked you about it before?

If nothing else, I think you need to slow way down and not let your feelings get the better of you, especially if you feel like a whore for even trying to kiss him.

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