Marriages and age differences

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Jan 27, 2008 at 23:54

I have a question...are there any stories, good or bad, of western women marrying Moroccan or Muslim men half their age that anyone can tell? The reason for asking is, I met a man half my age months ago. We hit it off right from the first sentence, and bonded greatly. We talked on mic for endless hours on messenger and I feel like I know him inside and out.

We talked about our lives, our past, our future, everything. We shared pictures of our lives, from birth to the present. You name it, we talked about it. After about three months or so, he asked me to marry him. I have never had the connection with any other man that I have with him, but this is only online, I haven't met him. He wanted me to come see him but I backed out. I am missing him terribly and I feel like something is missing out of my life.

Please....I don't want any "He's using you for a green card" comments. After reading posts on here, I know there are a few people that will automatically jump to that conclusion. We have talked about that, he has offered to sign a dowry for whatever I want. I know he wants to come to the USA but can you blame him for that? If I lived in one of those countries I would probably be looking for love abroad too. He has said that the age doesn't matter because we have two good souls and we understand each other, and we have a lot of similarities, and we basically feel good with each other.

I have talked to a couple other Muslim men in the past, I always felt like something wasn't right about them, they fell in love too quickly, I felt like they had a notebook of sayings that they were reading from. I know many of you will relate to that. "I will love you forever my wife", "I will never leave you" blah blah blah....

Anyway, so this question isn't about his integrity, it's about successful or unsuccessful marriages with that much of an age gap. I hope there is someone out there that has an experience to share. Thank you.

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