Thanks to all

Submitted by Shannon (United States), Jan 28, 2008 at 19:33

Farrah - please don't think I made my decision lightly. I had a lot of time to think about it and I felt it was the honest and right thing to do. The point is - I wasn't happy. How could I be happy with doubts about his intentions lingering? You're post seemed to confirm my fears, if nothing else.

I'm a VERY light skinned woman - I'm of Irish decent - , he's a couple of years younger than I am (we're both in our early 30s), and we spent most evenings at my apartment, ordering take in and watching a movie. This isn't the kind of life I want to live. I will not leave the room because another man is present, I will not "dress conservatively" (I don't dress like a tramp, but I do wear skirts and dresses on occassion), nor will I be used as a "cash cow" who's only allowed out to work. I'm an independant woman and a New Yorker, with an Irish temper! We generally don't take kindly to being ordered about and treated as though we're not good enough or something to hide.

Mr. Luigi - thank you for your comments. I've wasted too many years ignoring my instincts and thinking that I'd be that "one" to change the man I was with. It never works. I've left both of us free to find a better relationship for both of us. He wouldn't have been happy with me fighting him on every detail of our lives and I would NEVER stop fighting for my right to be treated equally.

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