A couple of things to think about

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 29, 2008 at 20:22

A couple of things to think about:

1) How do you know for a fact that this man isn't after a green card? Because he told you? In many of these cases, the problems start after marriage. A lot of people are like "well, then, we'll just get divorced," but it really isn't as simple as it sounds.

2) Your entire last paragraph is about how you don't blame people for marrying to get a green card, and then you say it's okay to do anything for true love. Is marrying to get out of your country true love? I don't think it is. It reminds of the Old monarchy days of EurAsia and Africa were people are married off for convience in land title deeds and to gain economic status.

3) I've been involved in scamming operations before too. They are more than happy to talk to you about the importance of honesty and how scamming is bad in order to get to you to lower your suspicions and defenses. It's actually a sales technique used in car and property sales and surprising how well it works.

Have you seen what happens to people once things go south? I know of men in their 50s and 60s who marry 18 year-old Russian girls, and when they spend the 40,000 euros to get them over here, they leave after 3 months and the guys are back to square one. The same with women who've married North African men---a lot of times, they find out they are they second or third wife.

You raise an excellent point about men. The reason so many Russian women seek to marry men in the USA or elsewhere is because Russian men have a serious issue with drinking. I'm sure you've seen th posts on here about Irish men who just crawl into the local pub and spend their life there. It's any wonder why women look elsewhere to find decent men, and I would tell the men if they don't like it, they had better cut the me-first BS and settle down and have a family like normal people do. But they don't and they won't. It's too much of a sacrifice. I think that's one reason why a lot of women look for a decent guy in another country.

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