This is what I did this week to test my foreign born spouse...

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Feb 2, 2008 at 22:29

First of all last wknd of Jan/08, I read ALL the post here on this subject. Read back if you like on MY situation/fears etc... One thing I said to my husband on Thursday:okay baby, let's get married in the Mosque! He just sorta looked at me like I put him on the spot...He says You want to convert?? No, but I'm thinking about it..but it would be beautiful to marry in YOUR way!!

Like a deer caught in the headlights he tried not to flinch....remember...TRULY in Islam marriage is not real lest it be in front of Imam because you are vowing to the God your committment. This is how they so readily walk away from us if he married you for green card only . If he respects you and is Muslim he will do the Halaal way.

Now when he receives phone calls and does not acknowledge me...I say directly Who is that person?? When can we meet? I've not met any of your friends?? See, if they plan to be with you, you are supposed to meet his family/friends. Remember the family ENCOURAGES the sons to marry now, then marry again later to the preferred wife.Anything to provide for the family and a ticket to America is often the way. I strongly suggest if you like this type of man, and I love my husband in every way...fall for one that is already HERE. So you can see him & touch him.

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