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Submitted by back to grassroots (United States), Feb 3, 2008 at 03:37

Hi I have a similar story. I met a guy who was Turkish and began talking over the phone because we lived in different states in the US.

As I traveled to go see him after 2 months of telephone conversations, I finally was ready to have some time to spend in person. This man was ready to buy anything I wanted to impress me, and wine and dine me. But, he didn't want to reveal any personal information. (ie. his work place, his home address)

I felt that there was something strange about the guy because his stories just seemed untrue. He believed that his religion was an important part and if he had kids, they'd hononr Muslim beliefs. I met his "cousin" on my trip.. he was a cool guy. Just keep the cousin in mind to understand the story... So I returned back from my long distance trip, and ended whatever it had been with the Turk. My instincts said this relationsip was suspicious. Then his cousin called me, and informed me that the Turk was married with kids all along. He had just wanted to have fun, and had told me that he was single and never married.

So, the cousin told me about his life and said he was sorry I had to find out that way. The cousin slowly started to flirt with me, and I wondered if he didnt see anything wrong with hitting on your family member's girlfriend. Well, guess this is more common from other posts that I read. Our conversations were innocent, and soon he confessed he wanted me as his girlfriend. After talking to him, I saw that he never mentioned I needed to convert to Islam, and always wanted me to live comfortably by not working. That seemed great to hear, but strange that it brought chained inhibitions for an American girl. I gradually talked less until I stopped.

Till the last moment we were in touch, it all gave me goosebumps. Just be wary. And never move to another country with a person you met on the internet. A long-distance relationship by phone can be misleading, I wouldn't know what to say about overseas internet relations.. Wow! Use lots of caution.

Good luck!

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