Interesting

Submitted by Involved with a Turk (United States), Feb 3, 2008 at 15:26

Hi Yasemin, thank you for your comments!

I would like to say, I find this interesting. Only because while discussing my ex husband with my Turkish Muslim BF, he asked me if I was receiving alimony? He said, "didn't he give you $10,000" I said, no! That is a lot! I actually don't receive anything from my ex-husband because he is delusional and actually tried to kill himself the last time i left him.. But in response to my comment, my BF stated, "Why is that a lot? You have two kids!!"

I found it rather interesting that he would say that, as if it is something to be expected in his culture. If you have children together and the relationship fails, it is expected that the man pay alimony.. maybe it is different for him in that he would uphold that morale, I don't know.

I just wanted to comment on that because from what I have read and learned, it is custom that if you have children together, the man pays alimony, no questions.

However, the man I am dealing with comes from a wealthy family, and has made well for himself. Perhaps it is all just in how one is raised??

I know the legal system there is meaningless in that often it will exclude Americans, but what if an American woman has the child of a Muslim man? I wonder if it would just depend on the man himself.

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