Wow

Submitted by Involved with a Turk (United States), Feb 3, 2008 at 15:54

Hi again..

I am so sorry you had such a horrible experience!

Well I can honestly say that mine has not been the typical, "I love you lets get married". We had been friends for about 9 months before I even entertained the idea of being in a relationship with him, not without his trying of course, but he has his own money, and has no interest in moving permanently to the US. We are also the same age...

I dont think I have to worry about him trying to pull the wool over my eyes as far as marriage fraud, and if he wants me to live with him, I really doubt he has a muslim girl waiting on the sidelines.

But that is not to say that he would not end up being a jerk. Alot of men here in the states are like that. They come off as the perfect guy until you marry them, then BAM sudden and instant A-Hole.

I suppose my biggest concern would be how he would treat me after we are married.. he is very respectful to me now.. always asking if I am okay, he asks my opinion of things.. oh.. for example.. he sent me a picture of some wall decorations and asked if I liked them.. little things like that.. which to me implies he values my opinion, and would want my input in making decisions. This could be just a ploy... but considering I talk with him almost daily, and have for the past year and a half.. this personality has been rather consistent..

Hes not the romatic type where hes like, "oh baby i love you lets get married". In fact he only recently mentioned the IDEA of us getting married..

I will be going to visit him this summer, so we'll see how it pans out. I have friends who were stationed in Turkey and they had a wonderful experience... I also have a printout of the address and phone numbers to the US Consulate General, and I have been studying the Turkish language since I met him and his cousin.

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