I see your point

Submitted by Involved with a Turk (United States), Feb 3, 2008 at 18:19

However, the difference is that I have all of his personal information, where he works, where he lives, and I have seen him in his home.. his cousin was the one who got all weird. This one was my friend and I actually talked with him MORE than I ever did the cousin...

He doesn't hide anything from me... I ask him things and he answers me. He doesn't act weird, he doesn't make promises to me about living comfortably.. he asked me how I feel about having more children. We have been talking nearly daily for a year and a half...

I am a very suspicious person and I have done tons of looking into him, his name, his location, his religion, his family, his business... I even ran across a forum he is a member of, which actually fits perfectly with his primary business. He owns a car gallery and I actually have an extensive knowledge and background in cars.. I do not work in the profession so there is nothing for him to gain there. I work in healthcare, but this is a love we share which founded our friendship in the beginning.. he is not threatened by my knowledge of cars, and was actually even impressed when I told him I had changed the brakes and rotors on my car by myself.. not a hard job to do, but for a woman to do that, in their culture, is unheard of.

He gives me my freedom at this point and he doesn't question me when I "miss" our meetings... He says, "I miss you." And likewise I don't question him, because he is always there... we work around our time differences, we see each other on cam, we share our lives. I've met his friends, talked to his friends, and he sends me pictures of his family... volunteeers information to me about what he did that day, like for example, the other day he sent me a picture of one of his friends doing a burnout in his gallery parking lot. He pointed out his sister's car, which he had discussed with me previously because he was upset at the car she bought because he doesn't feel its safe.. He had me take pictures of my car when I got it so he could make sure it was ok. Not like license plate pictures and such, but just in a caring fashion.

He asks me questions about what I think, and we 'talk" I think that is key... it is actually nice having an internet relationship because I can talk to the person and not wonder if he is going to try to get into my pants on the first date.. :) He has not pressured me to come there, because he knows I will, when I am ready. He hasn't TOLD me i have to stay home with my children, he just pointed out that "my children are important".

He hasn't said anything about expecting me to stay home with them.. I've just pictured what it would be like to do so in that environment.

Sorry I don't mean to come off defensive.. I'm not.. I am very intuitive and I actually don't have anything tugging at me about him that could be wrong.. my logical side questoins everything.. that is what research is for.

I have the address to his business, and I have verified (unbeknownst to him) his word regarding it. I am actually pretty good at analyzing people... and in watching his actions, when we talk, which happens to sometimes be in a cafe for him, he acts no differently towards me than he does in his own home. He has given me a virtual tour of his house.. lol... its interesting. I actually feel really good about him and our relationship, we get along and complement each other well, we have alot in common as far as personalities, and desires, and morals... etc.

I don't know I just like to read other's experiences too because while I 'feel' everything is okay.. i am never blinded to the point to where i believe something COULDN"T happen. He could very well be just like some of these other men, i just don't see what his motive would be..... i've not been given any reason whatsoever to think he has a motive other than he truly cares. But I could be wrong.

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