I talked to my husband

Submitted by Annie (USA) (United States), Feb 4, 2008 at 22:31

He says that it depends where he is working. What does he do? He thinks that if he is quite prideful, he will not like it. But now in all fairness he said he would like it if he were at work and I brought him lunch. But I think it depends the environment. There are many successful business men and woman there, but a lot of men do not like the interfereance of a woman in the work place. I think you should ask him if he wants you just to attend to the children and house and a better question is what would you like to do?

Do you speak Turkish, if not I would learn.... my husband said it would be very isolating for me in a country where I could not speak the language and it is a predominatly male environment and there not to wild about the US. MAybe not the US so much but in US policies. ARe you from the US?

I am not sure what is going on with my husband but in the last few weeks he has been very sweet, but now I have seen this before and then it turns without warning, on the upside I have had it... next mood swing...I am leaving...now that doesn't mean I am waiting for him to make a mistake, everyone can have a moment, but there is a difference in that and what he does in his moments of "shit" behavior. He is rude, arrogant, and just down right hurtful, no more will he make me cry.

He can be very cold, and this in it's totality will be the demise of our marriage. Now I am so hoping that he has realized what a jerk he has been (and I am being kind) he has displayed poor judgment, and irresponsibility towards work, school, and in his personal life. I think the turning of the page may have been when I looked him straight in the face and told him that I am from the US not Turkey and if he did not like the culture here maybe it was best for him to return to Turkey....I used the saying "when in Rome do as the Romans"

So now if you put yourself there he may very well expect you to behave in accordance with his culture... to finish my up statement, he is still here in the US and he has become more open to things and has toned down the arrogance. By the way Turkish people do not celebrate Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving etc... Now Rasim did celebrate with me but I don't know if he would have if we were living in Turkey.. Rasim told me NO that you would not be celebrating any holidays..how old are your children? Hopefully this will not be a problem. My husband also said if you have young children is he willing to educate them?

Hope this helps ..............let me know and if you want to know anything else go ahead and ask, it is only his and mine answer but maybe it will help Annie

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