***UPDATE*** Wow, he actually called!

Submitted by Sakia (Canada), Feb 5, 2008 at 10:51

He called me about a week ago. I was very surprised. He started talking about marriage and told me he wants us to have a life together. He just returned from Algeria and had told his mother all about us. HE said that he will buy a house for us and afterwards we will marry. I told him that I will never marry him without meeting his family first. He said that is no problem. He will get his brother to send me a guest visa and then I can go and visit his family...by myself!! What the...? What is he thinking!!

I told him I have no reason to visit them without him. At first I thought that maybe he couldn't travel b/c he is living in Paris illegally but he was just in Algeria. After some more talk he conceded and said we will visit them together (the last time I was in Paris I asked him how he travels if he is illegal and he said he uses his brothers' papers).

He asked me when I will be returning. I told him that I don‘t know but probably in April (I have family in Paris, so I will be visiting them, not him). I asked if he will wait for me. He said that he would wait for me a very long time.

Towards the end of our conversation I just came out and asked him exactly what was on my mind. I said, "Listen, I am an extremely sincere person. I would never use someone for even the smallest thing. If we marry, do you want to live in Canada?" Right way he said NO and that he all ready told me that he would buy us a house in Paris and we would live there. After, we will marry. This doesn't make much sense to me, b/c he would still be illegal and it would not be easy for me to immigrate to France. So, wouldn't that make us two illegals living there?? Marrying me would not help his situation at all, right?

So I'm not really interested in him, not b/c I don't like him (we got along very well) but because I know that when we FIRST met he was trying to fool me. With him, I can't distinguish between sincerity and lies anymore. But I am curious to hear about his plans for us and it's good to be aware of scams such as this that go on in the world.

Any thoughts as to what he is up to?

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