re woman waiting

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Feb 5, 2008 at 12:19

Farrah is absolutely correct in what she says about marriage arrangements and the real wife. My husband was without a job when we married and I found him a very solid position with an international company and it was this job that I believe allowed him to start the marriage arrangements with the other woman's family. Talk about betrayal.

And the imam religious marriage is the only one that muslims consider to be real, even though the country may require a civil marriage before the religious one, as is the case in Turkey. You cannot possibly imagine the dishonor and betrayal one feels knowing that thre was a woman waiting to take your place. And yes, they do wait because they must marry in their culture. I have never met people so infinitely practical and patient. I have no idea what transpired behind my back - were there tears and her pushing him to hurry up and get rid of me in whatever way was most expedient be it divorce or murder. Can you imagine ? Maybe the day after you marry he will go to buy smokes but really he's calling her.

I saw her once. I know it was her. As i sat having my breakfast, she came past the cafe and glared at me with utter hatred in her eyes because i am refusing the divorce. My little dying gasp of self-respect. Will this be you one day ? Will you wonder who he calls whenever you run out to the store for a minute ? Will you be wondering if she's in your bedroom while you're at work and then find signs that was was indeed in your bedroom ? Do you want this life ?

Remember if your fiancee is under 40 & never married THERE IS SOMEONE WAITING FOR HIM. It is not NORMAL for man to be alone w/o children during those years. If he is over 40 I am sure he is more sincere BUT that means for some reason HE is not good quality by his countries standard or he really has a wife. My friend reminded me of something ...In America we want/expect everything so FAST!! Who would WAIT for someone 3-5 years whilst they married someone else?? THOSE young women WILL!! Remember what me & Yasemin said...marriage takes place in Mosque in front of Imam.

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