hi again

Submitted by Annie (USA) (United States), Feb 7, 2008 at 17:27

Hi there...read your email, ...

Let's see where to begin from your email..it sounds like he will be very open to you bringing him lunch, just ask him I think the more open you are the more you will know exactly where you stand. Now there is a real alpha presents about Turkish men I found Rasim to be very sweet and kind and when we met it was unlike anyone else I had known...it too was important for him to have me put my son first......and it is very endearing. I never would have dreamed that he would have done or said the things he has. Now a lot of this I believe is his lack of maturity and where I use to respond to this I don't anymore, I have not fallen out of love with him but I certainly have lost that "crazy" head over heals love that I felt for some time. Now it is more protected and more about me. I was taking care of him and he became very needy that no-one was taking care of me or my needs.

Now don't get me wrong he was not like this in the begining and I am not saying this is a cultural thing but he has used this fact to make rude comments, but as I told you before I told him. I hope that we put everything right, but he will have to really step up because I already put myself out there and I am not willing to do it again unless I know for a fact it is 100 % on both sides.. otherwise, hmmm I don't know either I will move on or he will either way.

Don't get me wrong I love him very much but pain can make you take a quick step back and re-think things... And it wasn't entirely his fault... I invested way to much emotionally without making sure I wasn't going to be taken advantage of, because it was so easy, fun , laughing smiling, giggling, being silly, I felt as if he adored me and I adored him. Like I said before the person he becomes when he is angry I don't know and am not interested in knowing. Who knows though maybe it will come back, we'll see, but just be careful, have you two not met in person??? Before I say anything else I am going to wait for your answer.Have a good day

Annie (USA)

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