Age Differences

Submitted by z (United States), Feb 7, 2008 at 19:02

Khadija, first wife of the Prophet, was 40 and he was 25 when they married. However, Khadija was a wealthy woman. Of course on the other side of the coin, A'isha, reportedly his "favorite" of many wives was 6 years of age when he married her and 8 when the marriage was consumated. She was a feisty sister and probably the only Muslim woman who did exactly what she wanted to do when she wanted to do it. Read the history and you'll see that she actually led a battle after the death of the Prophet (The Battle of the Camel).

You really should read "The Forgotten Queens of Islam" by Fatima Mernissi, a Moroccan woman who has written many books and who was and perhaps currently still is a Professor at Mohammed V University in Rabat, Morocco. Trust me, the men who spend their time in the internet cafes in North Africa trying to flim flam vulnerable women couldn't care less about the age of those who are being used, abused and misused. There are a few relationships that are lasting but trust me, if you think they respect, like, or care one bit about you, I have news for you. They do, however, respect women who say "no".

If you read about the culture of Morocco you will find that most men are married by the time they are 28. If they aren't married by the time they are 40, the family is totally disgraced and I can assure you that the mother is going to find him a wife. The wife is always young and many times a cousin. Arab researchers have been writing about consanguinous relationships for a long while but they are still alive and well in North Africa. Young wives mean moo moos (babies).

Once you are married, you will stay home while your husband continues to run the streets with his male friends, use alcohol which of course is forbidden in Islam but if he can find a poor soul to convert to Islam, sins are forgiven. It's sort of like telling a lie...it's ok to lie to a non-Muslim and it's ok to lie to a muslim if the lie benefits the person who is lying. Are you confused? So you see, the lies the men are telling you ladies, "I love you", "I want to spend my life with you" are not sinful because you are not Muslims.

Oh, yes, I almost forgot. Do you know that when the men become angry or displeased with their women, they don't sleep with them. Why? Read the Qu'ran and you'll understand why. Children sulk. Adults discuss their differences and move on. As for beautiful wives, ain't necessary, sister, if you're relegated to wearing a potato sack to cover your body and a scarf to cover your hair. I remember as a little girl I would ask my great-grandmother why she dressed the way she did (black abaya and scarf) and she would say, "So you won't have to". God Bless that sweet old lady.

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