To sash

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 7, 2008 at 20:10

I hope you get this in timely manner, and I wish you the best of luck.

Sash, I am VERY humbled that you would turn to me for advice, and I will honestly do the best I can to help you out. It takes a lot of courage to be able to admit there is a problem and ask for help. Most people, sadly, don't even do that.

First all, I'm not going to say "I told you so." Far from it. The fact that we disagree on whatever issues is meaningless, and this board is to help people, not for me to prove that I am right and you are wrong. I sympathsize with your situation and what you're doing what you are taking the necessary steps in a relationship that has gone not so well recently.

To be quite honest, I am just sick and tired of men treating women like crap, sash, and you deserve to be respected for putting your children first. He is acting very selfish. On the other hand, even though you are not sure what religion is correct, you nonetheless respect your son's beliefs.

I don't think you are paranoid at all, especially if he's using the fact that your kids are raised a different religion as a excuse to act like a wild man. It's my understanding that his behavior with the drinking and with the girls is unacceptable in Islam. There's no reason at all for anyone to call you in the middle of the night. If someone did that to me, my first thought would be that someone I knew had died. If they are calling him, I'm afraid he may be being faithful to you.

And I've been there before too. A woman I dated a few years ago had her ex-boyfriends, girlfriends (she was bisexual) and even her friends who worked at night and were bored called her in the middle of the night. It made me very upset when I stayed with her and it made her roommate upset as well. Believe me, its extremely rude and annoying.

I support you 100% on this court issue, sash, simply because your husband is acting mean and hurtful. I know it's very hard on you, and I want to you know that I will stand with you, and I'm sure anyone else on here will as well.

And most important of all---don't beat yourself up over it.

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