Don't Do It !!!

Submitted by Sophie (United States), Feb 8, 2008 at 00:23

I met my husband 13 years ago. It was love at first sight for both of us. He was very sweet and loving, and very charming. He didn't want me to meet with his family, and would only have me over on the weekends, when the family was away. The reason, was because he was involved with another woman that the family knew, who he was supposed to be marryng for a green card. He eventually broke up with her.

About a year later, he asked me to marry him. After we were married for three years, he decided he wanted to be single and moved out with his friend for three months. During this time, he was partying and going to clubs with his single friends. He eventually came back to me, and like a fool, I took him back.

Shortly after, he was receiving calls from girls that he worked with, and would lie to me,and say he was talking with one of his guy friends. I was always worried that he would cheat, because of the way he stares at other women, and the fact that his brother and friends, all had women on the side, other than their wives. I eventually became pregnant, and thought this was a turning point and that things would be different. Wrong again !!!!

We were happy for awhile, but then he started working at his brother's bar, and would get home at 4am everynight. When I asked to go to the bar, he would never take me there. Fast forward five years....... things were going great, I got over my insecurities, and truly felt that our relationship had grown, and he would never hurt me. Wrong again. He started acting distant, always checking his cell phone, coming home later than usual, telling me that he wasn't in love with me anymore and so on.

I was so devastated and heartbroken wondering what I did wrong. This went on for a year. I had seen three different psychiatrists, trying to help me get over this depression he had caused me. He kept moving in and out of the house. The last time he left, I gave him a hug and said "thank you and have a nice life", hoping this would make him think that I didn't care. A week later, he had our children with him at work, when our oldest daughter called me crying. He had received a text message on his phone from his secretary, saying "thanks for the wild time last night" So I went immediately to get the kids. When I asked him if he was screwing his secretary, at first he denied it. Then said yes a few times. Well I called her and asked her.. She said yes, that they were having an affair for the past two years.......

This is when he also confessed to me that he was screwing customers at his brothers bar, and this is why I was never allowed to go there. I went home, packed his stuff and threw it on the lawn. He started crying and begging me to take him back, and said that he would kill himself if I didn't. He refused to leave, and to this day, is still here in the house. He says he broke up with the secretary, but she keeps sending text messages to his phone. We are very unhappy together, but he refuses to leave for the sake of the kids. In their culture, they believe that it is okay to have a women on the side, but that their wife is sacred and should not be touched by any other man.

My advise to any women who starts to fall for an Arabic man -- RUN, RUN FAST and RUN FAR !!!!

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