DON'T WANT TO GET PLAYED

Submitted by Von (United States), Feb 10, 2008 at 12:02

First of all, I just want to say that I love this site, it is a blessing. It has really got me thinking about my muslim fiance'.

I met him over the internet 3 months ago. We've been talking on cam and emailing at first, every day and now its every other day. He said he has to hear for me at least every two days, because he misses me. I think he is more of a moderate muslim, because our conversations gets steamy sometimes.

He does love to talk about God and he loves the fact that I am a christian (moderately), but he will say at times "I am a man also, baby," and would talk about sex. He would say that he would love to come to the US to visit me, but it was expensive and hard to get a visa Then our conversations turned into talks about marriage.

I thought he was only playing around, until i decided that I would go see him on my vacation. I told him the date I will arrive and he stated, we will get married on that Sunday morning. It shocked me, because I didn't take him to be serious. When he realized that, he got so angry when i told him I was just coming to visit, not marry. I do love him, and he says he loves me and we feel very close to one another, connecting really good, but the marriage part came so fast. He would tell me, it will be easy for him to come to the US to be with me if I married him. I don't want someone marrying me for a green card.

I'm 46 and he is 38. I ve never been married, he has to his first cousin. He say that he is divorced both ways, whatever that means, but how can I find out if he is or not. From what I read in some of the comments, if I don't convert to muslim, our marriage will not be legal, is that true. He say that his ex wife moved back to Jerusulem with the kids (6 &3), in which I have never heard of an arab leaving his kids. He wants to come to the US with me, together, make a better life for his kids. Hoping his ex-wife will let them come here to be with us. Can someone tell me if any of this sound legit? Could he walk away from me here in the US claiming our marriage is not real? How long if there is a time, do immagration require them to stay with us? He doesn't ask me for money or anythng. I am paying for my trip myself, because its my vacation, and I am independed like that. I don't want a man to think I owe them anything. I want to believe him, but how can I be sure, if there is away to be sure. I also found out that he was married to a russian lady once for two yearsin his early 20's, before he went back to Amman to marry his cousin, which was arranged by his mother.

His parents are dead now, he only have a sister and brother, which doesn't know about what he getting ready to do. He did admit that they would not approve because I am an american, and that he would figure out a time after we are married to tell them. Any advice is welcomed.

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