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Submitted by lani (United States), Feb 11, 2008 at 21:14

Yes, Yasemin you have been through a lot. I have not filed any papers. If it was a rushed marriage, I would be on here crying , too. I am smart enough to know that a relationship such as mine needs to have time. I am going on 3 years of being with him. His family all knows he wants to marry me. In fact, I know all of his family and his friends. We live at his families house in the town he lives in and when I arrive in Casablanca. I appreciate your caring and I am not trying to hide anything. I may make a mistake and marry him, but I have not .

You give some very valid reasons why women should not marry into a muslim marriage. I am sure your advice is helping a lot of women on this site and I really feel for you. I am sorry that you are with someone who has taken your spirit away . You are a strong woman to be sharing your story and I know you would not want the same thing to happen to any woman looking for love sometimes in a vulnerable and desperate state.

I am engaged, but not married and I have told him all the reasons why we should wait. I love my freedom and know what it is like to lose it. I was married twice to American men. The first one was an ass and the second one was the best , but he died 11 years after we were together. Then I had 2 more relationships with American men who were worse than asses. I lost my freedom with both of them and the law worked on their side not mine. I did not marry either one of them. I had a son with the second ass and that was the best thing out of our relationship. The third one died about 4 years ago thank God because he was not going to let anyone have me.

Hopefully, I am not on to my fourth ass. This is my first foreign lover and so far we get along very well. We have good friends we hang out with who are married to foreign women. We are a very mellow group and like most women.....we talk about our likes and dislikes. As couples, we are all driven to do better for ourselves and for others. Thank God I met someone who is nice and of course I will always have a doubt about him because of my past. I do not trust most men. So most of my doubts may be me and not him.

Again Yasemin, I am sorry what has happened to you. I hope you will find some peace to get back the you you want to be. Many blessings to you for being a brave woman. Much love to you.

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