The situation here

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 16, 2008 at 01:55

The situation here is that he is sometimes torn between his religion and you.

I've said on here before, and I think it applies here: Just because a man is a religious conservative does not mean he will not have sex with you or kiss you. HOWEVER, if he does go to far with you, he may feel very guilty about it and I think that is what happened here and why he didn't talk to you for three months.

The issue here is you are worried he will become a religious nut and you are worried about the strain on your children.

I couldn't tell from your post if you married him yet or not, but before you move in with him, you need to sort out this religion thing. You said he needs to hurry home for prayers and that is important to him, as is your freedom. My advice is that you have to make it clear to him that you want to celebrate these holidays and go to cinema. If he has a problem with that, I would just move out. It's not easy, but believe me, if you move in with him at the drop of hat, it will get worse. In cases like yours, it's after the marriage that the real problems start.

Brazilian and American Muslims may only be a small percentage of the population, but they still can lead strict lifestyles.

If I were a betting person, I doubt he will change. In Islam, many of these men expect the wife to convert and follow his lead in religion.

And honestly, if he can't compromise with you on certain things now, I just don't see how its going to get better.

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