how do i get out if this ?

Submitted by susie buck (United Kingdom), Feb 16, 2008 at 18:14

Hi, thanks for all your comments.

in answer to your question "why did i pursue this relationship" this was because he was at first very sweet and convincing, telling me he was a virgin, and a good muslim (and he did go to the mosque on a friday) i now realise that this does not mean anything, we had known each other for about five months, when i found out he was "illigal" and about seven months when he told me about his wife and children.

he then said he did not love his wife, and that she was his cousin and it was an arranged marrage. and he said he would divorce her when he went back to egy. thats when i stopped answering his calls and ignored his texts and also stopped answering the door to him. but he is very persistant, in txts and phone messages he tells me he does not want a visa, and will live any where (in europe that i want) ha ha ha ..

i really am not stupid, i just want people to realise the desperation of SOME african men and how when they think they have found a soft touch they will keep persuing it... whilst still having fun with other women.although i do work full time and do not have any money, and i have never paid for anything for him, he still keeps trying to get me to marry him !!!

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