It takes two to Tango...

Submitted by From Egypt (United States), Feb 17, 2008 at 06:29

Hi All,

I found this site by mere chance while googling something and I read the topics related to Muslim men and their way regarding women etc.

Let me introduce myself first, I am a 32 year old male from Egypt. I have went through a few comments written by you and it made me sad, because the trend is going on generalizing the fact that Muslims are BAD.

Each one of us went through an experience and that caused them to have a stereotype that these muslims are a nightmare... Why dont you also consider yourselves and the decisions that made you go through these decisions and ended up regretting that you married this or tried to commit to that.

You see I respect all religions after all its something between you and God. Every one has his own beliefs but we shouldnt mix these beliefs with relationships.

Just to make it a bit clear in the Arab world Families are very important. and the roots are very important... what i mean is that we have to know who is this guy because it shows through his family and work and education how he/she was raised and how they interact with people...

I mean here I see people complainging that he worked in Kebab shop or in a restaurant and illegal or has Visa but not well of etc.

Well isnt it partially your fault that you didnt give the chance to get to know them more before commiting to them. Belive me in the Arab world there are Very good people muslims and christians, but you just didnt interact with them much to judge them.

You interactions were based on illegal immigrants or uneducated people that left their country hoping for better opportunities. its partially your fault that you gave them the chance even though deep down you know its not right.

I mean one said she is older than him by 20 years. I am sorry, but you too have to be realistic, link it together... what does he really want... Legit papers or love...

You have to be smart in our decisions because it takes 2 to tango... You will never be in this situation unluess you both Tangoed together so dont simply genralize that all Muslim Men are crap.

You also have to be aware of Islam before committing to them, so why commit when you dont know or unaware of it.

For Example:

Children will be muslim. If you cant accept that then Block any muslim who passes your way!!! simple...

Muslims cant get into premarital relationships (Not many muslims abide by it but its a fact)

Rules of Marriage what happens when they get married how can the woman protect her rights, as all is agreed before marriage. (This is very important to protect yourselves)

No Alchohol

These are but a few examples that non muslims know that they exist but what do they seriously mean they dont understand.

Finally I want to point out something very important

Dont mix Culture and Religion together... A muslim from Morroco is not the same as a Muslim from Turkey or a Muslim from Egypt...

I will give an example... When I travel I bump into lots of Arabs in Europe, For example in France I met loads of Algerians and Morrocans (But come on, you can see that there is something wrong) I mean those who leave and rush to work illegally... what is their back ground how were they raised etc... I myself fear talking to them and I always avoid them... so imagine a resident comitting a relationship with them... this has nothing to do with religion... it has to do with what they have in mind and their hidden agendas.

I myself know people married to other nationalities and they are very happy together and respect on another... They asked about each other they talked with each other... they met each others families and together they agreed to be with one another...

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, Remember that it takes 2 to Tango. whatever you get yourself into you have to recall that its because you helped make it happen...

Please before we judge we have to wise in our decisions

If I could help in any way please dont hesitate to ask... And I hope that I managed to send what I was trying to say... I just wrote what came through my mind as I typed...

Take care

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