so confused

Submitted by carrie (United Kingdom), Feb 19, 2008 at 08:44

i recently wrote about meeting a turkish man and i am now in total confusion. my turkish bf is nothing like any of the men people have been commenting on and most of his turkish friends arent either , i have been thinking about all the things people have said and tried 2 see if there are any comparisons in the way he acts i can honestly say i must b one of the lucky ones.the things people have said sound so familiar but not with my tukish fella but in my past relationships with english men so ive come 2 the conclusion that it doesnt matter were they are from there is good and bad in all, im a strong person and have made it quite clear that i dont play games and the fact that we have both been honest with each other makes us both know we are equal in the relationship.

my family know all about him and his family know about me ive spoke 2 them on the net and there doesnt seem 2 b any problems . i think we all have 2 b careful of any relationship we enter into wether its with someone of our own race or different.u can only judge for yourself wether the relationship is on equal footings and have 2 question why u are having niggling feelings ,and work them out b4 ur relationship goes any further i feel so sorry 4 all those who have had a bad experience but all the time ur sitting there sad and depressed hes still got a hold on u stand up and get on with it let the jerk know ur better than him and stronger and nothing he does will affect u good luck

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