The warm fuzzies are wearing off....

Submitted by cinderellacats (Canada), Feb 19, 2008 at 23:55

Hi all, Well here's my latest update on my Moroccan fiancee...not for the life of me can I get him to read the Canadian Immigration links I sent him (guide, forms...) and here I am less than 2 weeks away from returning to Morocco to marry him.

Numberous times over the past month I have been telling him to read everything and understand what is required and why, but to no avail. "Later" he says "It's too much" and "After the marriage". He thinks that the documents I said I need from him to included with my sponsorship is the meat of it. He thinks all that is left is the medical exam, as far as I know.

Again I told him that after the marriage I must return to Canada immediately. In order to preserve vacation time at work for when he arrives here. There is no time later, if I don't have everything, application & receipt for the med exam included then I can not send in my sponsorship. I just don't get it, why is he being so obstinent? Maybe it has to do with the money involved. $200 for the medical exam and $1040 for his sponsorship (perm.res card incl) plus he is paying for the apartment that for my son and I (he says that we can't stay at his parents because we out of respect, there would be no sex between us) .

It would make alot more sense if he would just say that "It's a money issue. He has no income since he quit his work with the military so he would be free to marry me and get a passport. This I would understand. So last night I told him that I did not need to take care of another child. I have done everything I can to help him. If he does not have everything ready when I leave, then I will leave without it and he will have to send it to me later. It would be his problem , not mine. "Ok" he said, and "thank you". We disconnected our Skype conversation and nothing since.

The other thing that is kind of shaving the fuzzies away is the fact that he thought he had great news for me. A friend of his had also been chatting with a Canadian woman and she was coming to meet him, arriving on the same flight that I am going to be on. We can hang out with each other while he and his friend go to the GYM. Also for when he has to go to say his prayers, see his family and a bit of time with his friends.

Basically, it totalled up to 4 hours per day for 3-4 day per week and a minimum of 2 hours for the rest of the days. He thought I would be happy to have a fellow Canadian woman around for company and was surprised when I was not that thrilled. Hello....? I am coming to MARRY YOU, all the way from Canada, spending money I do not have to do it with!!!!

What part of "Outside of prayers, you should want to spend all your time with me. " The last time I was there we were at his families every other day, although he went every day. As far as the GYM and friends....where is your priority?

So what do you think? Am I being too hormonal? Are my expectations valid? 95% of people that know me say "Don't do it" My family, moreso my parents are dead set against me marrying a Muslim and bringing him into Canada. "Bet he told he loved you almost right away huh?" said my dad. The truth is..."Ya he did". Our first conversation lasted 5 hours and the next day "I love you" and 2 weeks later "Let's get married".

He seems rock solid and completely sincere. Loads of ethics and integrity but holy cow! Is it us or is it the differences in our cultrues?

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