Fuzzies indeed- move the wool out of your eyes so you can see properly...

Submitted by sara (United States), Feb 20, 2008 at 17:42

Hi Cinderella,

Couldn't help but respond to your story... If I were you, I would put ALL dealings with this man on hold until you can get a better idea of who he is and how compatible his lifestyle and culture is with yours. I really do not think you understand what you are getting yourself into. When you wrote that he suggested you spend time with another Canadian woman, coming for the same reasons, same setup, it really set off an alarm bell for me. Sounds like some kind of scam where gullible women are brought over there...

There are so many issues you have to look at realistically. Your lifestyle, your identity, your culture, are all very different from his and will not be the same once you marry.

You will not have legal access, rights, safety or anything that you take for granted in the west over there. Please be very careful! I have read too many stories like yours that end in tragedy in one way or another. Saying 'I love you' really doesnt mean much of anything when someone does not know you for long. That should have been your first red flag. Get rid of the fuzziness in your brain (or heart rather) and see things for what they are, not the way you WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE. Please. Do not do something you will later regret.

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