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Submitted by lani (United States), Feb 21, 2008 at 22:22

You do not need anyone to tell you what to do. What you are feeling presently tells a whole lot of what the outcome will be. Sounds like he only needs you for one thing and one thing only. He is being very blase to the whole issue of reading the papers that is required for his entry into your country. Most times, these men sit around talking with other friends how one will get entry to another country.

Usually, one of the friends have already gotten someone to get them a visa. So, the story is relayed to all other friends who want to leave. In your so called bf's mind.. he will listen to what his friends are telling him. So, he is living through hearsay about the whole issue of the papers. I know this because my fiance did the same thing and I refused to marry right away. He listened to his friends what to do with the papers and luckily he did. It gave me time to think and thinking I did.

A friend of his who is married to an woman in the USA had to finally tell him that I was correct about this one part of the papers I had to file. He had to sign his signature in his native language. Well, that took one year for him to get it straight in his brain. Lucky me, I still have not filed papers. I want to be sure. So far all is going smoothly with me and him....not the papers.

You need to look at what your priorities are and what are your expectations from this relationship. Sometimes , you may be left to do all the thinking for him and you. Oh, not to mention the cost. My bf thinks I am a bank and I have to tell his a.. off. He does not like that. Be firm and stand your grounds. I know walking away may be hard for you. You have to, because there are no known cures for a broken-heart. I really feel for you, my dear.

I am just concerned about you. I think you should just leave this guy. He sounds like he could care less about what you have to go through. Just do the right thing, woman.

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