Re: Moroccan Man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 22, 2008 at 02:51

Thanks for sharing, and I'm sorry things didn't work out.

I would say don't buy into the notion that he still loves you and to forget about him entirely. It's probably not a bad idea to get therapy either, I've never been married before myself, so I cannot even imagine what you must be going through. It would certainly be trite and cold to say "these things happen," and I really feel bad for you.

I think you are a lot braver than most people. Many folks sit around and try and rationalize the other person's mistakes, and yeah, I have to sheepishly admit I've done that too, only to find out I should have ended the relationship a lot sooner.

It's really important not to be too hard on yourself, though. You trusted this man for 11 years, and the reality is we live in a very selfish world. If there is one piece of advice I would give to any woman as a guy is to really get to know the person before you marry them. I don't mean be physical sex-wise, but really understand who you are getting involved with AND listen to outside advice from friends and family in the future.

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