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Submitted by carrie (United Kingdom), Feb 22, 2008 at 04:05

hi, i didnt meet my bf online. i met him on holiday last year and have been out 3 times since. we talk online everynite. i've been going over in my head certain things he's said to me in the past, and since reading comments on this page, i've noticed 1 or 2 things said by others. like if he cant get hold of me by phone he ends up "punishing"me by not talking 2 me 4 a day, or when i come out will i cook and clean 4 him.

is it the start of being controlled. he doesnt like me talking 2 other men unless he's involved in the conversation. i'm not a jealous person and i trust him totally, so its quite hard 2 get my head round it. he has told me he loves me but not until 3 months into the relationship he also said he wants 2 marry me and have children, but this is something thats on hold until we both know how the other one ticks.

i suppose im a bit muddled bcoz of the stories i've read how it begins good then turns bad. i think i know him well enough 2 say he wont do it 2 me but these stories certainly open your eyes. i'm gonna move out 2 turkey with him this year i think i've just got 2 do it. if it doesnt work then i can come home. i could b 1 of the ones who has a good story 2 tell. religion hasn't come into the relationship yet. i know hes muslim but he doesnt practice it, so its never been talked about. maybe i should bring the subject up when i go out in april, it seems 2 make quite a difference in some relationships.

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