Message for egypt

Submitted by Marie (Ireland), Feb 23, 2008 at 11:06

I find your advice extremely helpful, i'm in a situation at the moment and really would love if you could give me your opinion, i have read some of the posts here and i think i could do with your knowledgeble advice since i'm not sure myself. not sure how to use this site as i just stumbled upon it today.....my story starts here..........ill try to make it short.

dating a muslim 1 year didnt realise it was haram until 6 months ago as i know lots of muslims who date........so he tells me he really likes me and is falling for me after 2-3 months i felt the same, ive never met someone so caring and loving. but he cannot tell his family about me they would be disgusted as they dont want him dating. he's living in the west 10 years. he now tells me he doesnt know what he's doing but he knows he respects me and really really likes me........he gets hot and cold, not when were together but when were apart the is a huge lack of contact on his part....so i give him space etc ,but its like hes always having doubts. when i dont hear from him then when he's ready he denies that he was having doubts and that he was just busy.

i have accused him of playing games and he said he would never do that. i believe he is genuine but then sometimes i worry i'm being taken for a fool. i just need to understand what he could be going thru. i know you dont have a crystal ball lol, but was hoping you could give me your valued opinion.

thank you.............any advice greatly appreciated

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