Try to be realistic

Submitted by Life is Beautiful (Ireland), Feb 24, 2008 at 13:31

Dear Mary,

I am with a muslim man 7 years.Ramadan is only for 4 weeks and always he invites me nearly every day to eat with his friends.There is not Ramadan for 2 months. Even if you are not religious you do not need to feel excluded and you do not need to feel bad. He is in your country and not Vice Versa.

Try to be Realistic of what you will face in the future with him.Try to not change your religion for any man.Try to not make any comprimises that it will cost your freedom and your peace with your self and your circle (family and friends). This is not a love if you feel like this after so little time it s maybe the need that you have to be with someone and not for the specific person.What he offers you in order you to change and to be a muslim.He is trying by excluding you from ramadan to push you in another direciton that it will be suitable for him.

I am not allowed to stay with him for 4 weeks in Ramadan and I find it HYPOCRITICAL as we have sex the rest of the year and if I was muslim I could be with him.This is silly....we are human beings and not machines to stop to touch or to stop to see eachother for 4 weeks.I do not know open your mind and your heart and see things logical more than emotional.

I am pretty sure 99% that exemptions for this religion is very little. These man are lovely very sexy they make you feel attractive cause of the way that they treat you and this is not the reality.You will end up married and maybe muslim and after it wil be very difficult for you to go back to your old ways and culture you will be a BROKEN personality and a BROKEN heart.

I say all these because I am BROKEN personality now. I love him and I made the BIGGEST mistake to fall in this love and relationship just I never said to be a muslim and I wil never have muslim children even if I am many times close to say YES but something is holding me.I believe that to break up it will be hard but if you are no so much time together the recovery will be less painful.

Come on you do not need a man who is calling you every 2 weeks disappearing and appearing any time that he wants.This is very common to these people unfortunatelly very few are the good ones...Open your eyes and see things more LOGIC...NOONE is UNREPLACABLE in this life....I am trying hard to take decisions and I love him...but I start to think more with my brain than my heart...because I know if I will follow my heart will break my dreams...and my hapiness....

A future with a muslim man is really predictable and it means: Muslim babies for sure, maybe to be convert to Islam also (WHY??? WE ARE EUROPEANS WHY I HAVE TO FOLLOW ANOTHER RELIGION FOR LOVE THIS IS TOO MUCH) also staying home and him being out with male friends and flirting..I do not say that this does not happened from the european man but at least...there is more HONESTY about because they do not have BARRIERS to say the truth and to leave you for another woman.I do not know just be carefull as long as you are little time with him better the chances to not be TRAPPED...

Good Luck and express your self...do not keep them inside you....we can help you

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