So religious they don't drink or smoke, but they can butter up a woman,have sex with them for months,take money from her,and dump her the next day

Submitted by Monica (United States), Feb 24, 2008 at 22:05

I guess I am writing here because I am in dispair for I feel so deceived and betrayed. I am a woman in my early 40's but I can say that I look very young. Last summer,visiting family in Spain,I met a young man in Ramblas.He is from Morocco,has no papers and worked in Ramblas jumping with some acrobatic performers. His eyes and his smile attracted me towards him immediately.We got to talk finally,and he asked me to see him that evening. I was leaving the next day to America but he left a very good impression. He told me he was 21 and I got afraid at first. I was scared to tell him my age but I just wanted for him to know me better before he would judge me for my age. So I waited. We called often,he sent me many text messages and I called him every day. My interest for him grew over the days and I became very interested with him. I served the military and for almost two years I was in Iraq serving as a nurse. I saw many bad things and meeting him was like a gift from God.

I had gotten out of the military but was holding a job at a hospital. I left the job to spend three months with him over in Spain.He seemed to be a very good man,mature for his age.I liked the thought that he was religious. My believe of God was already very similar to the Islamic way and told him that it would not be difficult for me to revert to Islam. For three months,we lived together,ate together,made love every night just like if we were married. He told me that he loved me and of course I truly fell in love with him.He told me every day that he loved me and that he was in love with me. We were thinking about getting married,as soon as I had some paperwork done from a past relationship. I paid a lot of money so he could go to the dentist to get his mouth fixed since he had periodontal disease. I told him that I could live in Spain,Morocco or the U.S.,that I would help him and his mother because I loved him. Before I left back to the U.S. I aslo gave him a thousand Euros so he could look for work.

During the first two weeks of my visit,I told him about my age,and he did not seem to care.I asked him many times through my stay so that if there was a problem he would tell me while I was there,not after I left. I have to say that I slept with him cause I loved him and in my heart there was a commitment and respect to care for him,to love him,and to marry him once my paperwork would come through

Well,as I am writing this long comment, I just got back from Spain yesterday.Just two days ago he was so sweet with me holding me and kissing me just about every minute telling me that he loved me. Las night he seemed fine too but I did call him this morning,and he told him that he would not marry me because I am too old for him and that he has no feelings for me,nor he has ever loved me even while he was with me.He also said that I should live my life and that he would live his life with a woman his age. He talk to me with such coldness that I have never felt before with any human being.

He deceived me by telling me that he loved me,by kissing me in the middle of the night to wake me and tell me that he loved me.At first he had told me that he wanted to get to know me better and then after the three months he would tell me about marrying him and having a relationship.The three months had been so wonderful.There were a few differences between us but it never seemed that age or anything like that would be never a problem.

I know that I must go on.He still has to do dental work that I paid in advance to the dental office and I just gave him the one thousand Euros only a few days ago. He told me that he knew all along that he was going to tell me these news once I would leave from Spain.

I was at a vulnerable time coming back from the war. Please ladies out there,be very careful whether you are muslim or not. Men like this are not worth anything.They live from women that need love and affection.

I feel like crap.I know I will survive,after all I survived a war and I did not die.I guess this feeling of hurt and dispair is a reminder of what life is about and to be careful about these men. He says he does not love me,nor he never did and that is all.

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