The thing to remember

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 24, 2008 at 23:33

Mary,

I am so sorry he has treated you like this.

The thing you have to remember about Muslim men is that they may say they are not religious, because they know if they tell a Western woman that they are, it may make the women less interested, since religion is pretty dormant in Ireland these days. The other thing is that many of them simply don't respect Western women, they see them as temporary playthings. Others want to date a Western woman in order to get her to convert to Islam.

This guy you saw is so inconsistent. That's not good at all, and it usually means somethings he says are lies. The fact that he blames his phone is the LAMEST excuse I have ever heard.

I think regardless of your personal religious preferences, this guy is BAD news. He treats you wrong, and ignores. His religion is much more important to him, it seems, and I VERY much doubt that will change, Mary. The thing is, relationships fail when people think they can change each other.

I'm not Islam's number one fan, but even if you do convert, you can still expect the same treatment. It's the person, not the religion, that's the problem.

Believe me, I know this must be very, very hard for you, but you DON"T HAVE TO DATE A MUSLIM to get to know Islam! A lot of European women have converted all on their own! Just don't feel like you need him to help you out. For him to say you could have come if you were Muslim is just plain rude, I don't care what culture you are.

Honestly, Mary, you deserve better than him.

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