To Michelle

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 25, 2008 at 22:02

Hi Michelle!

Thanks for sharing your story.

There's just a few things I would like to point to out for consideration BEFORE you get married.

One is that you don't seem to sure that he is for real. In your story, you are almost thinking out loud and asking if you and the other lady on here have the same man. It's very possible, because that's what a lot of people do these days. I dated a girl years ago who did the same thing...she had to be on her MSN and myspace every other hour, and it turned out she was being very naughty on there!

The other, and most important, is that rushing into into marriage is a BAD idea. That's where a lot of these stories that make your stomach feel woozy come from--after the deed is done. And it's not just with Moroccans, or even men. Lots of American guys marry Russian women, and 7 out of 10 fail. I don't mean because of committment and capability issues that plague our society today, I mean the second they bring the girl home...BOOM! Her attitude changes, and she focuses on learning english, getting a drivers liscense, and most importantly, how to leave or get a divorce. So many times this happens.

I think that meeting a person just once and then deciding to marry them is not a good idea. The reality is, having a relationship on-line or on the phone isn't the same as in person.

Even before the internet, people did engage in distance relationships over the phone without meeting, and in the end, after meeting in person, it was like meeting a stranger because all the conversation on the phone were lies.

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