for mary

Submitted by lani (United States), Feb 26, 2008 at 17:01

To be honest with you. The religion thing seems to fly back and forth , especially when the situaltion seems to only fit them to not want to do something back for you. I know what you are talking about. I am a rather curious person by nature and ask very direct questions. My bf used to do the same thing to me. Using his religion as his excuse to get out of something. I am only speaking about him, but not for all muslim men. Especially, when it came to sexual issues.......I really had to laugh. Not like sex means the world to me. He would say things like it is ok for a man to have a woman perform oral on him , but the other way around is against his religion. I laughed my behind off. I told him to go and read the quran.

To get back to you about the Eid. I was in Morocco (I dont know where you were) for the Eid and there was no problem for me to attend the party. I am not muslim, but have a deep respect for my bf's culture and traditions. I have gone to two Eids in the past two years. It is a time to visit the families after the slaughtering of the sheep in all households. It is time for forgiveness and getting together. Everyone eat and share with everyone. I loved it. Well, you need to look at some of the things you said in your comment and determine from there. That you are definitely not a big part of his life. Maybe, you are his convenience. Maybe having a lot of women to prey on may be his way of feeling important in front of his friends.

I agree with you that islam is a wonderful religion. I was glad to hear that you are reading up on it because you are doing it for you and not your interest in him. You know, somewhere a long those lines it is about him, though. You want to know what makes him the way he is and so it is best to look at what he says is the reason for his wishy-washy ways.....his religion. He may be telling the truth. The younger generation of islam is beginning to lose some of the traditional ways because of outside influences. I saw it for myself. So, he could be feeling the impact of his religion on some of the days , when you communicate with him. Sounds weird or off the wall, but it may well be his true reason.

Go easy and take care of yourself.

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