the difference between imam marriage and civil....?

Submitted by Annie (United Kingdom), Feb 28, 2008 at 11:21

Hi Yasemin......please can you shed a bit of light on my situation.....from your experience ...i trust you know where im coming from.

Ok i'll start at the beginning. I met a moroccan guy last year in morocco. we have spent weeks together and his parents think we are friends. I have two kids aged 11 and 8,they get on great with him. He is a practicing muslim....(prays goes to mosque). anyhow ...we really love eachother.....i have a place in morocco. him and his father helped me buy it. They are wealthy by moroccan terms ...

last october my bf rowed with his parents ,moved out of the family home and lives at my apartment. he wants to marry me now...i said i would love to except..........yesterday....he calls me in uk and says ...look ...i am afraid to ask my parents for their consent to marry you ....cos your ten years older and they think we have been friends....

I'm gonna tell them that we are going to marry cos you wanna help me get a visa......i told him What!....you must be crazy.....tell them the truth.....he said that they will say no....BIG NO....now i dont know what to believe after reading all what you lani and farrah have written....Is he telling his folks the truth and i'm the fool....or is he being realistic as this is the only way for us to be together

I told him that i planned on staying in his city for 12 months so the kids could attend school /learn french etc............how could he explain that to his parents who have business near my apartment....I just dont know what to do......................

Can i ask if and when we marry in morocco....does that entitle him to a share in my apartment....and when i return to uk a married woman will i have to change my status to married and notify the authorities ...even though he will still be in morocco.....

Please can you or anybody reading this give me much needed advice....................Thank you

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