Raddir

Submitted by Mary (Ireland), Mar 5, 2008 at 19:39

Hi Raddir,

I'm not in a long distance relationship, but i would never send money to someone i have never met or a male i havent gotten to know properly. i wouldnt send money to a man in my country, so i wouldnt send money to a man in any other country.............i'm not rich. i work hard for my money so i would expect them to do the same......my motto is for them dont borrow to spend it if you cannot afford it....if i really want something i will work hard for it even if it takes me a long time i would rather earn it than borrow it.....

if i was in a position to buy an apartment for me and my husband to live in I would make sure everything was in my name...........uness he was paying half,and he would be expected to support with bills etc since he is living there also, nothing in this world is free. all you have to do is read the magazines about the rich and famous only to realise some of the women dont sign pre-nups and end up splitting half their money with the men after 1 year............................or vis versa

i hope this answers your question.

i know people who did send money to men and i think its terrible because i was with a turkish guy b4 and he was (unknown to me) getting money sent from an older woman to go visit her live with her..........i found letters from her and thought she sounded very sad and lonely she had 3 kids and split up with her husband ..........she was very vulnerable

after i found this information i immediately finished with him. he was spending the money on himself buying new clothes and taking me for dinner .he had plenty of money, he was just taking full advantage of the situation. he told her he couldnt afford it so she sent him the money ..........so not only do we hear of this i witnessed it..........never send money to anyone if this is why you were asking. be sure you know what youre doing. of course he denied everything to me but i had too much proof..................and i never looked back...

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