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Submitted by lisa (United States), Mar 8, 2008 at 20:38

hi

i just read your story. I also have had an experience...where i work they are from turkey, i was introduced to the cousin...he speaks lil english was shy sweet, they joked about marring him i thought it was a joke...and said aww no...well stupid me thought we could be friends i would teach him english and just be a friend. i was the only american girl he had been with hanging out i mean. well we grew closer started seeing eachother and slept together, he made the comment he was going to go to hell because of what we did...

well anyway i found out he was married with 2 daughters and had supposedly just filed for divorce, but through reading i guess they do that...he made a comment once in conversation that his wife cried from the divorce and that she said she would wait for him..1st big red flag for me...but my heart was already being taken over by his loving way and his doting and sweetness i needed that at the time.

anyway i told him i was falling in love with him and he said he loved me too...well the question of when i was going to fianlize my divorce from my husband who i had seperated from continued. that and hints at moving in..he also was becoming possessive...would call where are you and came to my house everyday the killer was he started to just walk in I live with my 20 yr old daughter she was starting to get angry at his intrusion on our space. she saw through him.

well anyway i was upset that night and said i am not going to marry you i love you and i know if i do i will lose you in 3 yrs..looking at me like i had 3 heads he couldnt understand my heartache. i said if thats what you want go find a girl to marry he looked at me and said WILL U HELP ME. I was so hurt all those moments that we shared they all meant nothing to him.

well i made him leave he texted me sorry if i hurt you well he was trying to say that but his english is bad. well today he says we need to talk i said about what he said (HE REPLIED---I DON;T KNOW . MAYBE LIFE) WHAT THE HELL he must think i am an idiot....tell me what he thinks i want to hear cause i was his meal ticket....i see that now....i said no i was busy...he plans on talking to me after work at the resturant....i will be ready for his lies.....god i hope i can keep the tears back...thanks

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