Your thoughts?

Submitted by Stacy (United States), Mar 9, 2008 at 20:12

Ok. So I came across this post and decided to get some opinions...

My husband's ex-wife (they have 3 kids together from their previous marriage) went off about 1 year ago to Pakistan. She had told us that she was taking a trip. We thought it was VERY strange and at that time she had custody of the children so she pretty much just dropped the kids off with us and left the country.

About one week later we got an email from her stating that she had met the man of her life in Pakistan and that she married him!!!! She stated that she had been having an online relationship with this man for about 3 years and then took the trip to Pakistan to marry him. She did not even tell the kids the reason why she was going to Pakistan so it was quite a shock to them when they found out..

She stayed in Pakistan that time for about 3 months. She got back to the US and then started the process of trying to get him a visa to come to the United States. She then went back to Pakistan about 6 months later and decided to give us custody for a lump sum child support payment.. This was the only way we could get custody of the children with out having to take it to court and drag it out. So she said I will give you custody if you pay me and let me go to Pakistan whenever I want. Keep in mind.. She still has 1/2 custoday but we are primary parents now. It turns out that her husband Amir from Pakistan found her on a depressed chatting website. He then decided he loved her. He is about 8 years younger than her and has no job. I have attached a link at the end of this post which will take you to one of the news article that the Pakistani press posted.

At this point I think that he is using her to get a greencard in to the United States but I was hoping to get other opinions. Apparently his brother did the same thing except he married someone in Europe and then later divorced his wife after he got his greencard to stay there. She is leaving again to Pakistan tomorrow and she is hoping that he will make it back with her to the United States soon. I am just so nervous about this situation because if he does make it back here and he is only using her for a greencard then the kids are going to be soooo upset. You see..his ex is bipolar and her moods are VERY unstable.

Right now she claims that the only person that makes her happy is her husband in Pakistan so if he does just use her and leave her then she will end up being a wreck and that will be so hard on the kids. When she got married she ended up paying something called a dowry (sp?) to the family. What does this mean? Also the kids told us that Amir gets 150 american dollars a month.. I can only figure that she is sending him and his family money. Although I don't know where she would get money since she can't hold a job because of her disorder.

I honestly think all he wants is a green card.. What are your thoughts?

Here is the link --->http://www.dawn.com/2006/12/20/nat32.htm

.. please keep in mind that a lot of the statements here are lies on their part. Amir does not have a job.. My husbands ex even told us so. She had told us that they lied to the press so that it would give them attention and hopefully speed up the visa process.

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