Re; Stacy

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 10, 2008 at 18:30

First of all, I read that article and I think its full of crap. I definately don't agree with the attitude of Pakistanis towards Americans that the article portrays. We are on friendly terms with the government, NOT the people. The site looks like it was designed by a fifth grader!

A dowry is a payment given by your friend to the husband and his family. It's actually an old Indian custom, but it still happens mainly in rural areas.

Look at it like this: she is sending him money, and they are taking advantage of her, probably because of her condition. You said they met via a depression website. Most of the dating scams are geared towards ordinary Americans from the Midwest, TN or Texas who are hard luck cases. I've seen this from Moroccan men to Russian and Nigerian and Latino women. It's more common for them to sign up for a dating site, pretend to be from a small town, in say, Minnesota, North or South Dakota, and then eventually they tell the person they are in trouble and need money.

Yet, a depression site makes sense for a scammer, because they always go after hard-luck cases. They are experts in this, and as long as she keeps sending money, he'll keep playing the "I love you" game, and when the time is right he'll try for a green card.

Think about it: Most of the stories on here are about women who have kids, are divorced, and the guy is ALWAYS younger. I'm a guy Stacy, and we just DON'T think of being in relationships with older women. I know of guys who like to have flings with older women, but that's about it. The fact he is 8 years younger just speaks volumes about this situation.

The first thing I would do is get her to stop sending him money. If she is so sure of his love and vice-versa, he shouldn't mind. Materialism is looked upon negatively in Islam. Looking at his picture and the fact that he has internet access, he's more well-to-do than most Pakistanis, that's for sure.

She's paying his way, no question about it, and 150 bucks goes a LONG way in Pakistan.

This is a scam if I've ever seen one. NEVER send money!

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