Monica

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 10, 2008 at 18:48

Monica,

Your points on here are good, but realistically, don't expect men to think like that.

We mostly see things like Hugh Hefner, the head of playboy, in the news at parties with girls 40 years younger than him in pajama's, but there is no love there. Reversing the role of the genders makes little difference. A priest once told me: are people who act like that truly any happier than a couple celebrating a 50th anniversary with grandchildren and great-grand children?

The attitude that you speak of is that we have successfully taken the pro-creative value out of relationships. We, as a society, have put our own PERSONAL HAPPINESS in a marriage or relationship above that of raising children. That is why we have all the social problems we do, and one of the reasons why so many women go looking abroad for husbands.

I too was raised across the lake from an Indian Reservation, but I must persist that most people just don't follow time-honored traditions or respect them anymore.

Even though you yourself do not look at age, men do. It is very rare for a man to be in relationship with an older woman even in a sexually liberal society like ours. I hate to paint a broad brush here, but I am guy, and appearance to men matters a lot more than it does to women. Sociological studies prove that. In fact, many men cannot even seem to be mature enough for women their own age or even women a few years younger than them. Combine that with the idea that there are nearly 5 million more women than men over here, it's no wonder why some women gravitate towards family-oriented Muslims men.

Let me give you an example about the scams on here: when it involves men on the short end of the stick, they are almost always involved with someone who is SIGNIFICANTLY younger than they are. The men are just so full of themselves and want a pretty girl and think that foreign women will do anything to marry an American guy, because he's an American and that's better. But, she gives him the short end of the stick and leaves.

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