i want out.....

Submitted by mare (United States), Mar 11, 2008 at 03:30

I met a man from Khemisset, Morocco in Feb. 2007, he came to me via Myspace. At first he said he was poor, only wanted love, and within 3 days, he said he loved me, and asked me to marry him. Well, I thought of this as a pastime, because really no one truly falls in love that fast.

This man was very interesting. I eventually started to fall in love, but there were always signs and also my intuition that told me this man was not being so truthful, he sent me pictures of a woman and some children, whom looked just like him, he said this woman was his brothers wife, and the children were his brothers, but after reading about the culture, the men are very protective of their women, and I asked him how did he take pictures with his brothers wife without his brother getting upset.

Then while we were online there was always the same woman there, bringing him food, tea, water, etc., when I called him three times the same woman answered the phone even when it was late at night the time there. But still he claims this woman is his brother's wife, he also said what do I have to do send you pictures of them making love. He would go on about this woman, like he said he was the king of his castle, he don't let her go out because the men are bad there, and she prays at home, but still he says this is his brothers wife.

I found this to be so interesting because he claims to pray five times a day, but yet he is with holding the truth about being married already, he says he has sex and it takes him 3 minutes the first time to come, when I asked him about this and said to him I thought you were single with no one, and you call me your wife, he said to me that he is, and that he has wet dreams, of making love with me of course. well I have found this man to be all too interesting like watching a soap opera of some kind, I even found him on myspace to have four different websites, all proclaiming he was single, yet he wants my myspace site to say I am married after all the men who wanted to be friends with me, he also said I will say I am married.

He does things and says comments to me out of the blue and out of the ordinary, like one time he was very busy all the time, and one time he was late getting online, and when he finally got online an hour later, he showed up with a silver ring on his finger, and when I asked about it he took it off right away, any way there are so many signs that this man is not telling me the truth, but yet I still get online with him, and I tell him I am sorry for not trusting him, and we do this all the time.

I dont want to be involved with this man any more, when his wife isnt home he bombards my phone with calls which becomes annoying. I know if I go there I would not be happy because he says he is compatible with me, is active, he says he like doing alot of different activities, but in reality he is a bore, he hardly speaks any english and when i asked him how are we going to communcate when i get there and he said love will talk, this was the conclusion to asking him to learn a little more English and he got so mad about that and told me to learn Arabic, so that was that, he knows so much about love making and says he never had sex before, nothing seems to add up and I am so tired of being here online with this man. I changed my websites so many times, but he finds me.

it seems like an addiction, I know its so wrong this relationship but just knowing someone wants to talk to you so much is the thrill, but really my thrill is running out and its becoming a burden now, because this man is not as real as he says, I have a full life, I cannot leave this life for a man, who claims he has no money, a small dick, he said this himself that his dick is smaller than a banana but I assure you you will like it, wow, that is very hard for me to say but really I dont know what he is getting at, well I think he is married with children and he is looking for a way to get a visa, because he really doesnt have the feelings for true love, he always says like in a generalized way, ok i love you, there now I am leaving for work, as if its what he is suppose to say, yet when I am online with any of my friends or my family, he buzzes in on me and says what are you doing online, who are you talking to, so I know he is online all the time, he isnt telling me the truth about his life.

I noticed on this website there are a lot of women here like me, who feel that they are being cheated on, for most say do you know this man.....and i dont want any part of this relationship now, life is too short to not have stability, to not have reassurance, to know if after you go to morocco to get married, to have a blissful stay there and come back to america and have to wait for another year to have your husband come over here through the visa process, and to feel that loneliness through the wait, and to find out that your man has a family, he leaves you after the visa or gc is done.

well that is too much for me, I cannot wait like this and wonder what this man may be doing when I am not around, I told him that I would stay the summer with him because I will start college courses in the fall, but he was not so excited about it, he said oh you have to go back and get the marriage papers to the us consulate, so i feel that if this is real love, that would not be so important as our time together, this man also knows so much about how a woman should be.

I dont know I just feel like my life has been taken away, but this man he gets to be so annoying and when I break up with him and tell him to leave me alone, he cries so hard, and he seems so fake like an actor, he puts his head down and just cries so hard, and says I need you, then he demands pictures of me, and one time he said that his friend has some of my pictures and not to set my profile to the public because men over there they use photos to make website to get money from people.

Well this man at first use to click in on me all the time to ask for money to get back to the us he claimed he was from the usa doing some work in algeria, and always these same three men would click in on me when I was online, and one time this man I talk with claimed it was him who was online because he said he was checking to see if I was talking to other men, any way that is also another weird thing. Well I know what I feel in my heart, I am not going to Morocco, because i know I am the one who will be hurt in the long run. I am not that desperate for love and attention. I know God will help me always.

Take care and may God watch all those women like me who are being used, this man he asks me to send him things all the time, shoes, jackets, etc., he said because it comes from usa, but wow the moroccans have some of the most beautiful materials i ever saw, so I dont know why he wants something all the time. I am giving up on all of this and I am going to make the best of my life here where I belong because life is too short to wait for a man. I love where I live and my life already. I have learned so much and that is the good part of it. Please make comments on my comments. take care.

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