to Luigi

Submitted by Amina (Netherlands), Mar 14, 2008 at 04:22

hello Luigi

yes i agree with you, but on the other hand, Internet can also be used to reach to other cultures in a way that you can not do by television or reading. Or holidays, as my experience is that on holidays i end up in a sheltered surroundings. Most people (not all) in the West do no know what real poverty and living in surroundings with much violence is and how this changes people.
Why you think the drowned people who wash up the shores of Spain went in those boats? For fun?

Many young people in Africa have totally wrong view of Europe/USA and of what they can do there. And indeed try to use ladies and men to get a foot in Europe. Once they are in they import family and drop the partner after robbing him/her of everything. This is criminality in deepest sense and totally against real Islam.

A love relation can only flourish when the two can meet for a long time and have good understanding and things in common - phone or internet may be the way to meet at first but the real contact must be built up in daily life - and then distance is indeed a problem. Distance in age, culture and income etc etc.

Me, i passed my 50th birthday long ago, was chased too by all those young men on net, horrible, so after some time i stopped all penpal subscriptions etc. but really i now chat with some people about our mutual interest, philosophy and religion, and this is very very enriching for me. Just take care that you do not talk about love, do not send money, do not give out your adress unless you really chatted for long time and even then better give adress of a good friend, and as soon as the other person talks about I love you then stop the contact as love is not possible only by internet contact. It must grow.

Do not get mistaken by the friendliness of the family of your chatfriend, they may all be in it together to get at least one of them to USA europe or wherever - and do not condemn them for this unless you too worked hard in a terrible factory to eat, and with 30 look like a person of 60 in the West because of the hard life. And in some cultures the people can express themself in very nice ways, do not get mislaid by that, but try to see under the surface. When you have a good income, enough to eat etc. then thank God for that and do not forget that you could have been born where conditions are different.

When you want to meet, then arrange a holidays all by yourself (hotel etc.) then maybe you can meet in a pub somewhere where you are safe.
When God has destines a certain person for you, he/she will come in your life and this may happen by net or phone or by friends or whatever but the real contact comes AFTER that and be very very careful plz.
I do NOT appreciate hate against Muslims. LIke Luigi sais, many nonmuslim men just try to get what they want and i met many muslim men who are sincere - and who are not chasing ladies on net. Who sincerely think of God 5 times a day - do you?
In Western countries many women are not appreciated at all and used and abused, they are supposed to look like and work like men and motherhood homeliness and gentle nature are not well liked. .

I know several good marriages here that started by internet/phone contact, but after that the two met and slowly came to know each other.
For me internet was enriching - but ladies keep your head very very cool. As soon as you feel something is wrong, stop the contact.

Family life is important for many people so when you are beyond the age of having children, be very careful when you meet a man, west or nonwest, check out what he really wants about children. To avoid being deserted in the future. And in some countries family influence is very big, so that the man has not real free choice in this.

Those that criticize Islam: plz start praying 5 times a day to God, for 1 year, and then see in your heart if you still dislike the religion of islam, or any religion, so much. Praying softens the heart and makes things clear.
Best wishes to everybody, Amina

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