Re: Apple

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 18, 2008 at 21:50

Thanks for your contribution to the board, you have been on here for a long time I see, and I will just get right down to it:

To speak frankly, I think you still have doubts from what you are saying, even though you are now married.

I would like to point out a few things on here:

Most importantly, even if you are married (and I by no means a fan of divorce), and if this ends up not being what you want or you find this to be bogus, don't feel like you have to suffer for it. You seem like a very thoughtful person and think about others carefully, a quality most people lack, but I have personally been in a similar situation before and there is nothing more depressing or gut wrenching than feeling that you HAVE to be with someone you don't want to be with out of love. All marriages have their challenges, but feeling that isn't love at all.

Its sounds harsh of me I realize, but it bothers me greatly that he doesn't have a job and that you are older than him.

The reality is that most of these distance, on-line relationships (romantic or friendships) don't last, and I just think you need to be aware of that. A few occasionally do, but the thing is that the ones that aren't scams end up failing because of cultural differences or other typical marital problems (ie cheating).

I can also understand your want to live in the USA. I am actually surprised at how many people are willing to leave for the third world to find love.

It's really difficult to lump Muslim Morrocan CULTURE and the USA into one. The reality is, the two are very different.

BUT, it's not difficult to lump the MEN into one. There seems to be almost an illusion that ALL Muslim men are family-oriented, strict and religious because a Muslim website or two say so. Sure, some Muslims are more than happy to marry a western woman and raise the kids as Muslims to help the global spread of Islam, but a lot of them also don't respect women and view them as easy sex toys, which is view that many men here in the west have.

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