what are the facts

Submitted by Apple (United States), Mar 20, 2008 at 21:19

luigi

i see you comment a lot on here. i dont know if you are just someone observing or someone who is truly an experienced therapist.

i am sure anyone entering marriage would naturally have doubts, or what we call "cold feet". and it is not unusual for anyone to wonder if they really "know" their mate....nowhere is that more evident than in our country.."oh so great that it is", but having the highest divorce rate in the world...(UNHEARD OF)...and where does that leave our standard of marriage?

i need to see some hardcore facts before i really start doubting my man based on him being Muslim and Moroccan. I am not naive by any stretch of the imagination and am well seasoned in relationships...i too was married for a very long time to an American.

what makes someone seek love in a third world country? maybe it is because these people appreciate simple things..they have hope and belief in God despite such adversity and hardships...maybe because they do have a deep sense of family... you can see clearly living in these places that MONEY ISNT EVERYTHING (contrary to our country)....eccentric personalities are drawn to places like this, open minded, soul searching people who are longing to find love other than what they can find here in American men (sorry if that is an insult)...and alot of the ways men from "third" world cultures, (despite what people have "heard"), regard their women is very respectful...

no need for extremes (with anything) but i think our country is also very extreme in certain areas, which is destructive. And aren't women here regarded and treated as SEX OBJECTS?? Which country has more infidelity, promiscuity, and sensationalism, higher rates of unwed mothers, teen parents, incest, rape??? As far as a woman's role, dont we all assume a mother/wife role? staying at home or wishing we could with our young offspring, cooking the majority of all meals and assuming all the domestic tasks of the home, school and family issues? of course IT IS THE WOMAN...

i can understand some freedoms are not exactly the same between men/women in USA and men/women, in say, MOROCCO, but they are coming along..more and more women are predominant in the work force there, the younger generations are dressing more casual and western style yet still keeping respect to their families and cultures (if that is the way they are raised)...you dont see as much EXTREME OLD SCHOOL restrictions and limitations like before and quite frankly some of the restrictions that they are used to actually promote a more respectful and modest community which I find is something we totally lack in our society..granted every individual situation is different just as every MAN is different. Let's face it, as you simply put it "men will be men" and it isnt just the men who are unfaithful no woman in their RIGHT mind is going to just turn a blind eye to their man's infidelity.

i refuse to let some "bad" situations affect my optimism or happiness...I just want to know what others have learned and why morocco is getting such a bad name...is it our man's fault that the unemployment rate there is so bad? is it their fault they they are ruled by a dictatorship and dont have the same opportunities as we do? is it their fault they are born into a poor family with no hope for a brighter future? we are damn lucky here!!....too priviledged and cushy...we should thank god and don't mistake someone's misfortune as laziness...if you are blessed enough in life to receive love, help and support I think it is only fair when you love someone that you extend yourself.

i dont base my relationships on money or cultural differences, the foundation of any true relationship should be based on love and respect, above all.....but on the contrary ...like my mom always says....."you cant live on love alone" or "love doesnt pay your bills" "love is blind" "love makes you do crazy things" blah blah blah

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