My Moroccan Man that I do love so much

Submitted by Susan(USA) (United States), Mar 22, 2008 at 16:30

Hello all,

You know I've been reading and thinking and reading and thinking more. So, here I go. I been involved with a Moroccan man for 2 years now, by telephone, computer, and letters. We talk almost nightly on the telephone. I think the dilemma or should I say confusion is the getting to know someones soul via emails, letters through the mail, and telephone conversations that sometimes leaves someone to a little doubt. What I'm really saying is....in my heart of hearts, I know within the very last fiber of my soul I am so in love with this man in Morocco.

I truly feel in my heart he is in love with me as well. Perhaps you'd understand it more if you heard us, but we truly talk, act, behave like an almost married couple. We fight over stupid things but at the end of the day we have our pillow talk and laugh at our fights. Our pillow talk at the moment is over the phone....and the reason we are not face to face as of yet, is I've taken my time to really understand him, his culture and macho Moroccan ways...hehehe, yes, he is one fiery Moroccan brat man as I am one fiery american lady.

When met a man hurdles filtering our relationship online, through phone calls, etc. and it has been tough...but when I truly look inside my soul and heart, I want to share the rest of my life with this man. And trust me, he has put me through hell, but isn't that the way to really get to know one another......if it was all pink clouds and smiles...something would be wrong.

The only thing to this day that really pisses me off about him is ..yes yes...of course I've wired him money...no no no, not lots, and have said no to him and many occasions, but I'm a bit irked today cause he went to a festival (music concert) in another city and wanted me to wire him money. He is working now and I know he does not make much money, but wooohooo he is working!!!!

He found a means to pay for the bus to the desert, hotel, etc. I haven't wired him money yet cause he is like on vacation, holiday..whatever..and someway or another he's got the money for this fun stuff....but each time I'm talking to him on the telephone now he is asking did I go to western union, or wire money on moneygram. Pissed me off!!! Seems a little too preoccupied with this money this weekend..arrggh...

sometimes, I think he may have another female on the side to help him financially.....that is when he starts calling me alot and talks longer, which I don't mind at all, I love hearing his voice...but I don't know why their is always this doubt in my mind as to where he is getting all this money to call me or go to the flea market shopping, etc. ....again, this is why it has taken me two years to finally decide to go to Morocco. I will go in April or May. We're suppose to be married...but again, I'm the one who is going to forking out the cash for the marriage.

Please be honest ladies, how many of you have done this??? Please be honest, how many women have flown to Morocco and paid for the marriage, etc. Also I've learned from a friend of mine that if a Moroccan man is to be married to a Moroccan woman, he wears a ring (like committment/engagement ring) on his right hand. Mine does not wear a ring and I questioned him as to why he does not.

The man has never stuttered like that with his english ever before..lolol..I think I caught him off guard. So I said, you say you're my husband, where is your ring that says you are taken?? Duh.....he couldn't back paddle enough and yes, it did hurt my feelings to think he wants me to pay for the marriage in Morocco, get his ass to the USA...but he can't just wear a simple ring for me??

Again, I'm pondering about this.......if I was Moroccan he'd gladly wear a ring...He asked me if I wanted him to wear a ring and I said yes, but as of yet, he has not put that ring on his right finger...........You're darn right I'm pissed...and I be damn if I'm wiring him money for his fun trip with the boys in the band......

What are all your thoughts on this??? How many of you are flying to Morocco to pay for the marriage, everything for the man you love? Please be truthful....

I wish you all much happiness and success with your relationships.

Susan

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