MONEY

Submitted by SLS (United States), Mar 24, 2008 at 00:56

I am supposed to go to Amman Jordan to meet and marry my muslim man whom I have been chatting and talking with on the phone and internet, for the last 6 months. I thought he was different, but I see the same pattern coming around that I have read from some of these comments on this site.

I thought that since he had a job, we would share the expense of him coming here to the US. Since I make more money than he does, I agree to pay for my own ticket to go to Jordan, it is my vacation anyway. He calls me today and ask me to bring him a $1000. $500 for immagration and $200 for the physical. The other $300 for something he has to pay off. (he did not say). He wants me to bring this with me when I go to marry him.

I thought I would be the one to have to start the procedure in the US when I return with the marriage papers. Can anyone tell me why does he need the money for a physical and immagration so soon when I haven't started the paperwork here in america yet. There is money I have to pay also here to start the procedure to get him here. We talked about splitting everything down the middle except my ticket. I thought that was fair, but now it looks as if he wants me to pay everything, calling it a loan, in which he promise to return all money when he get here and get a job.

I am currently training for a job and may not go back to work until the end of this year. Will that delay him from getting his visa to come to the US? I thought it would and so I asked him why does he have to pay money now to immigration and for a physical when he doesn't know if my employment situation will delay his visa or not.

Can someone tell me about the procedures and when moneys has to be paid. I would appreciate any advice, thank you.

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